Divorce isn’t just a traumatic experience for couples, it’s also rough for the children involved. The time immediately after a marital split can be very difficult for children as they adjust to changes in schedules, economic circumstances, and relationships with their parents. Las Vegas divorce attorneys advise that taking steps to make the transition easier and maintain stability can help children avoid behavioral and academic problems that can stem from a divorce.
Divorce is often a watershed event in the life of a child, having a huge impact on their understanding of the world. Children of divorced parents are more likely to see declines in their academic performance, engage in disruptive behaviors, and get divorces themselves when they get older.
Parents can mitigate these consequences by working together after the divorce to ensure their children have stability and support. Some tips for divorcing parents include:
- Get financially stable – After a divorce, your financial circumstances are likely to be somewhat reduced. Adjust your budget to fit these new circumstances, and be on the lookout for ways to improve your situation, such as finding a new job or earning a new degree.
- Avoid jumping into a new relationship – Getting into a serious relationship after a divorce may be upsetting to your children. If there is someone special you’re interested in, take your time in developing the relationship. Gradually introduce this new person into your children’s lives over time, and only if you feel this relationship has long-term potential.
- Put up a united front – You and your former spouse need to be on the same page about rules and expectations. In many cases, it helps to make a written list of rules that you and your ex agree will be enforced at both houses.
- Avoid putting down your ex – This is tough, because in divorce there is a lot of hurt, disappointment, and raw emotions. However, disparaging your ex in front of your child can not only hurt the child’s relationship with the other parent, it can also hurt your relationship with the child. Try to focus on your former spouse’s positive aspects when discussing him or her with your child.
- Communicate – Even though you and your spouse are divorced, you still need to communicate about your children’s needs. Avoid talking about your past relationship and focus on discussing the children when you talk. In time, you may find that you and your former spouse are far better co-parenting partners than you ever were a couple. You may even become friends.
- Reassure your child – Make sure that your child understands that the divorce was not his or her fault. Children often blame themselves for their parents’ divorces, creating long-term feelings of inadequacy and despair that can negatively impact life choices and relationships with others.
McFarling Law Group offers Nevada residents caring and experienced representation in divorce and family law cases. Emily McFarling is an experienced Las Vegas family law attorney who is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist and a recipient of the Pre-eminent AV Rating. To schedule a consultation, call 702 766 6671.