Going through a divorce is often one of the most stressful events during a person’s life. In addition to the emotional stress that comes from the end of a relationship you believed would last a lifetime, there are also other concerns about finances, child custody, and more. Worries about the various issues surrounding the divorce can interfere with your ability to work and care for your family, leading to even more stress. Hiring a good divorce attorney to represent your interests can go a long way toward eliminating confrontations and prevent you from having to deal with some of the issues on a daily basis. Still, taking some steps to help you keep your focus where it is needed can ensure you get through the divorce process with as little negative impact as possible.
1 Look at Therapy as a Preventive Step – Even the most devoted friends will tire of hearing your worries after a while. A therapist or support group can provide you with an outlet for your concerns and help to take some of the pressure off. You will probably even surprise yourself with some thoughts that you didn’t realize were weighing on your mind. Once the divorce is over, and your life is back on track, there are no worries about what you said to friends that you wish you hadn’t.
2 Take Care of Your Physical Health – People respond differently to stress. Some will have more energy and have difficulty staying still. Others will feel weighed down and want to spend more time sleeping or just lying around in front of the TV. While getting enough rest is important to your well-being and in preventing stress, don’t ignore your physical needs. Stay active in a positive way. Go to the gym or take a walk around the neighborhood. Even better, take a Zumba class, and increase the production of endorphins to relieve stress and make you feel better.
3 Choose Your Battles – Feelings of anger and betrayal are often associated with divorce. For some people, these result in their wanting to fight over every detail of their divorce to inflict as much pain as possible on the other person. Unfortunately, this can end up hurting you more in the end. Instead, think about what is really important to you and make those things a priority. It’s okay to feel anger and sadness. Just don’t let them drive you to take actions that will cause damage to your mind and body.
4 Know Which Areas to Indulge In and Those to Avoid – Find things that you enjoy doing that will provide relaxation, excitement, or a sense of accomplishment. Indulging in activities such as drinking or doing drugs will harm your body and mind, and they may even hurt your case. Invest in a good massage and enjoy the long-term benefits of stress reduction it can provide. Keep in mind that your goal is to reduce stress; not to lose control of your body, mind, or life.
5 Face Reality – Divorce laws can be confusing to most people. Turn over the responsibility for areas of your divorce case that you don’t understand to your divorce attorney. If anyone could do it, there would be no need for divorce lawyers in the first place! Your attorney knows what you have control over and what you don’t. Let him or her argue the fine points of your case and let go of the rest.
6 Move On – Take time to mourn the loss of your marriage, and then recoup so you can move forward. There will be a resolution, and you will have to live with it, regardless of whether you get your way or not.
One of the most important decisions anyone makes is the choice of an experienced divorce lawyer to represent them during their divorce. To learn more, or to schedule an appointment, call 702-565-4335.